Budget Tunang - Mana Nak Cekau Duit Banyak Gila tu

Actually, kalau you all rasa kerja kenduri ni tak guna banyak duit, hmmm silap besar la ye dik non... Nama pun kenduri so of course no doubt (nak menekankan betapanya lah) banyaknya guna duit bila nak buat majlis. 

Ye... Meh I nak citer ni.

 PROBLEM

Sebelum kenduri, I did asked my cousins and friends yang dah selesai dengan majlis-majlis mereka, berapa agak-agak budget tunang mereka ye? Ok. Ada yang kata RM1000 cukup dah. Ada pulak yang kata semua sekali (meaning share lelaki perempuan la kan), RM5000. I was like... adoi. alamak. appa amma. pening lalat kejap. Tapi, ikut logik la kan, memang logik pun. Bayangkan la, beli barang hantaran je dah setengah ribu. Itu bukan yang standard-standard mak datin tau, yang paling kokak la tu. Belum bekas hantarannya lagi, cincin untuk bakal tunang, goodies untuk tetamu, baju tunang, accessories semua tu, dah masuk senarai? hmmm MAHAL ok. Duit semua tu... NOKTAH.

Jadi, persoalan pokoknya di sini ialah;

Dari mana kita nak dapatkan duit yang banyak itu.

SUGGESTION 

Kalau keluarga bakal suami anda terdiri daripada golongan hartawan dan jutawan, sila abaikan entry ini okeh. Sebagai orang-orang biasa dan keturunan yang menggalakkan anak-anaknya berdikari ni, I supposed I should save up money since my very first year of study. Tapi dah terlajak sampai ke final year second degree dah pun, nak save up apa lagi. Now we have to think for the alternative. I did do part time business, crocheting. Tapi, tu pun tak la masyuk sangat; atas banyak sebab. Antaranya, I buat business ni online so nak dapat pelanggan tu bukan senang ye. Lain la kalau networking bagus. And then, handmade ni kan kena pandai cari masa sebab I student tak boleh la nak mengadap benda-benda tu 24/7. Another reason would be (ni yang my mom complain a lot) I can't give them proper price. Selalunya bila dah hantar je mesti my mom komplen, murahnya...! Haha. Tahla, ramai je kata my handwork cantik, neat, but then I feel like that they are easy to make and well... its not very time-consuming so I think it is not fair to the customer if I put a high price. 

IKLAN SIKIT

If you are interested to see them, you are welcome to visit my crochet blog - CROCHET KAK NGAH. Do comment if you like them C:

Tapi, masa kami bertunang hari tu, I think we are a lot menjurus kepada pendapat yang kedua tu (share lelaki perempuan RM5000) dan mungkin lebih lagi kot haha. As for me, masa cuti semester panjang April - September lepas, I work with my father and earn RM1200 per month. Since we’re doing canteen tender, so makan-makan is no problem – no money affected. Pergi balik kerja my father support minyak kereta. Lucky me...! I save up all my gaji for the engagement day and preparation. Dah berhenti kerja (sebab dah masuk semester baru) pun I still earn some money, apart from duit poket yang student wajib dapat tu lah. Sebabnya I suka hantar my brother pergi and balik kerja. My father bayar tau titik peluh anak dia yang sikit tu. In fact, literally, rasanya tak ada peluh langsung kot. Nama pun naik kereta, ada air-cond. Turun dari kereta pun tak, celah mana peluhnya la kan. 

Akhir kata,

Good Luck bakal-bakal pengantin... Mari kita sama-sama perah otak cari duit...!

INSAN BERNAMA KEKASIH

Debar hatiku membisik rindu

Ingin aku katakana kau gadis idaman

Adakah mungkin kau ku milki

Untukku jadikan insan bernama kekasih

Keayuan yang tergambar lukisan nur iman

Bersulamkan keindahan santun perkataan

Bagai putih salju medinginkan hangat perasaan

Mengusir segala rasa dijiwa

(Chorus)

Ku sampaikan salam ucapan mesra

Dan merisik khabar berita

Masihkah ada peluang untuk ku melafazkan cinta

Umpama rembulan jatuh ke riba

Mendengar khabaran darinya

Padaku kau memendam rasa

Padamu Tuhan ku memohon keredhaan

Kekasih yang ku damba

Kekal hingga ke syurga

Hanya satu yang ku pinta

Kebaikan dariNYA

Moga dipeliharakan tulus cinta kita

Agar kukuh ikatan yang murni bahagia selamanya

Dengan lafaz pernikahan yang mulia

Datanglah kasihmu dalam diriku

Menghiasi ruang hatiku

Akan ku sambutnya dengan sujud penuh kesyukuran

Ku harap jalinan kan berpanjangan

Selagi kasih yang terbina kerana cinta kepadaNYA

(Chorus)

Kau ku sayangi teman sejati

Dikaulah sesungguhnya insan bernama kekasih

addicted *tetibe je*   

Diet

I have said this HERE but I may not have said it right ^___^

I was on a long semester break May-September 2011 so I decided to help my dad making some money at some canteen of factory calls Chemi-con Malaysia. Anyway, being busy and kind of short-workers, I really had no time to eat or even think about food. Nonetheless, I was continuously without fail keep reminding myself that I couldn't tolerate gastric and ulcer so I force myself to find time to eat. Luckily I love my aunt's home made kuihs and cakes so I ate a lot of her curry-puff and cucur badak and what not. Oh yes my father bought them half-cooked; frozen dish in another word and so I just need to fry them a little and wallaa... bon appetit

After that 5 months of working so hard believe-it-or-not heee I lost more or less 5 kilos. Not bad huh. In a nutshell, if you really wanna loose fat, avoid rice and... 

Good luck!

Trust Your Father Instinct

All these years my father is the only one driving at home. That’s simply because he don’t believe woman with car. Some of the examples are,

“Cepat la sikit kak long… kosong depan tu,”

“Ish3 apsal potong camtu. Tu mesti perempuan,”

“Kan kuning tu, jalan je la…” “Oh, perempuan… patut la…”

SARCASTIC, GENDER BIAS, SEXIST. and I personally think he is too rigid in thinking all women cannot drive properly. Well, I am against his attitude but what to do. I have no license and I don’t know how to drive so I am not sure whether I can drive well.

Time goes by and he’s getting busy with his work. He has no much time to send and fetch up my brothers at school. Sometime he has to fetch up me too – from bus stop when I got home for holidays. He also has to go and buy things at market. He is the one who drive to kampung for hari raya and kenduri. It’s tiring. And so he let us take the driving license, which is good for us and not so good for him – I guess – sebab my father reluctantly let us drive the car to shop if he’s home.

Now, he’s getting busier and a lot busier with the canteen stuff. (He got canteen tender a couple month ago). The canteen operated 24 hours and apparently he has no time to send, wait and fetch my brothers. Hence my mom has to take over.

I am on a long vacation. Yesterday, I follow my mom fetching up my brothers because afterwards we want to exercise at the recreational area. After that short ride, only I realize exactly why my father doesn’t believe women with cars. They are like jumping here and there, cannot wait uncomplainingly, driving so fast and running on anything possibly they can run on on the road and 20 000 000 other inappropriate way of driving that you may think of.

You know what, before, when my mom sit next to me, she always say, “Slow la sikit”, “Bawak slow slow je, jangan laju-laju,”, “Dah, ketepi, kereta belakang tu laju,” and when she is not going along, she always say “Bawak kereta elok-elok” but yesterday? I don’t know if she remembers anything she has ever said to me.

She drives too fast. She runs on everything from a hole, bumpy, uneven road and to anything else you possibly could see on the road. When she is about to go out of junction, she can actually just go out when I think there is car coming towards us. I don’t know how many times I feel like I hit the brake pedal even I know it’s not there. When she is about to cross the road, I recite syahadah – just in case! Aduh mana la tahu kan. SCARY. It really is.

Last time, I went for a little vacation at PD and since we are all girls, unquestionably the driver is a girl. We all went out for dinner that night, looking for ikan bakar. She cross the road just like that and there is a white car coming to us. Luckily, it was slow and he turns away from us. Obviously we got a loud and long honk. Padan muka. Padahal, it was WHITE car and we are supposed to notice him. Nasib la kelin* tu tak berhenti maki kitorang.

I love riding car but not with a girl. Neither a woman. They are dangerous driver ;p

I myself a girl, a big girl now. I have had accident, once. Luckily, I run on to divider and no other person involved. However I feel sorry for my father. He cannot claim the insurance. It was third party insurance. Ye la, tu kereta lama, da tukar sana sini. Dapat pulak enjin turbo. Tu yang I bawa kereta laju tu tak sedar. Hadoi, kopak ayah.

Anyway, if you are a girl, be extra careful. I guess it is man’s gift that Allah made them a good driver. They are leader and we will always be the follower. And about the comments,

“Cepat la sikit kak long… kosong depan tu,” = girls, when your meter reaches 100, stay at left. 100 is still SLOW.

“Ish3 apsal potong camtu. Tu mesti perempuan,” = when you are about to take over another car, lorry or bus, make sure you can take over. Give signal first and don’t panic. If you are not sure, ikut je la botot kereta tu, you’ll be safe.

“Kan kuning tu, jalan je la…” “Oh, perempuan… patut la…” = when it is yellow, you go faster because after your light turns red, you got 3 seconds before the other light turns green. It is fact. You should know that J

Last but not least, be a good driver.

Hantaran

Since I've said I am engaged so these are some of the photos :) hantaran dari pihak lelaki 21 dulang, kepada pihak lelaki 20 dulang. In my family it's kind of normal aunties and cousins give things such as chocolates and sweets adding the dulangs. That explains why ours are even in numbers hehe

dari pihak lelaki

kepada pihak lelaki

These are some more...

Thanks everyone. I love you all. Special thanks to my cousins Kak Ina, Kak Ijah & Kak Ct. They successfully add 6 dulangs to my hantaran so that we give no less than my fiance's family gave heee...

siapa-siapa rasa dulang-dulang di atas cantik (in fact they are) don't hesitate to give me a call - in case you want to order some :) 013-2504851

Nikah Rahsia

Pernikahan yang dirahsiakan dan tidak diwar-warkan kepada orang ramai.

Perbezaan antara nikah rahsia (NR) dengan nikah yang tidak didaftarkan (NTD).

1) NTD memenuhi syarat-syarat nikah tetapi tidak didaftarkan. Ia sah dari segi syarak dan tidak memberi kesan kepada kesahihan nikah tersebut memandangkan "pendaftaran" bukan salah satu syarat sah nikah. 

2)  Sebaliknya, NR menyalahi NTD iaitu suami isteri bersepakat dengan wali dan saksi supaya tidak menghebahkan nikah tersebut, sama ada didaftarkan atau tidak.

Pendapat ulama' dan dalil-dalil mereka.

1) Syafi'iyah, Hanafiah & Hanabilah bersetuju bahawa NR dibolehkan.

dalil

i) hadith Nabi (s.a.w) la nikah illa bi wali; mafhum hadith: nikah sah dengan izin wali. Nabi tak kata; tidak sah nikah yang dirahsiakan.

ii) Qiyas kepada jual beli; kedua-duanya ialah 'aqd mu'awadhah min jalibain (melibatkan kedua belah pihak), dan tidak disyaratkan mengiklankan akad jual beli. Oleh itu, sama sepertinya, tidak disyaratkan mengiklankan akad nikah.

iii) Syarat nikah diiklankan, tapi dah ada iklan sebab ada 2 orang saksi, dan itu cara yang selaras dengan syarak. Dengan adanya saksi-saksi tersebut, nikah itu bukanlah nikah rahsia.

2) Malikiah & sebahagian Hanabilah berpendapat bahawa NR tidak sah (batil).

dalil

i) Telah diriwayatkan bahawa sampai khabar kepada Umar dalam satu majlis akad nikah, cuma seorang lelaki & seorang perempuan menjadi saksi (tak memenuhi syarat saksi 2 orang lelaki @ seorang lelaki + 2 orang perempuan). Umar tak membenarkan nikah tersebut.

Walaubagaimanapun, penulis tidak bersetuju dengan dalil ini. Pada pandangan beliau, ini bukan NR tetapi nikah batil kerana tidak memenuhi syarat nikah. Jadi, dalil ini tidak dipertimbangkan sama sekali.

ii) Qiyas kepada "couple" kerana tiada beza antara couple dengan pasangan suami isteri yang tidak diketahui sah akad nikahnya. Pada pandangan umum, mereka belum berkahwin dan tiada ikatan sah sebagai suami dan isteri. Dalam Islam, perbezaan antara halal dan haram adalah jelas. Jadi, NR boleh menimbulkan syakwasangka dengan tiada beza yang nyata antara halal dan haram.

Kesimpulannya, NR menyalahi maksud sebenar syarak iaitu memelihara keturunan. Contohnya, jika wali dan saksi-saksi dalam NR mati, kemudian suami mendakwa dia tidak pernah mengahwini isterinya, ia akan menimbulkan masalah kecuali jika nikah ini didaftarkan ataupun isteri mempunyai bukti kukuh menunjukkan mereka telah berkahwin. Jika tidak, orang ramai pasti meragui hak isteri dan anak tersebut. 

So It Happens...

I am engaged! :)