SENARAI PANJANG *instead of checklist

It was quite sudden that we decide to engage. We pick date and start to make some preparation. Almost every weekend we go out find things like flowers for hantaran, alas dulang, goodies and what not. Her aunt said “takpe… bertunang ni buat ringkas-ringkas je…” huh. Lega ada makcik yang sempoi dan memahami. It was me actually who pick the date sebab susah sikit nak tunggu sebelah sana pilih tarikh. My other half said, up to his tokwan. Hai… susah la nak tunggu tokwan free. Dah la tokwan selalu mandikan mayat, banyak kenduri kena attend, pastu kat sebelah sana pulak ada dua kenduri dah set tarikh – bulan November and December. At last, I myself pick the date. Hihi… pedulikan.

Budget punya pasal, we cut many things and do them as simple as we can. Itupun after we’ve done with everything, my friends and cousins said “not bad… banyak budget…?!” I was like “hmmm…? Dah habis simple kot ni…” (dalam hati je la) haha Nampak sangat la membazirnya kitorang ni.

We buy quite everything related to hantaran at Nilai Square, Nilai. To be specific, ThankQ Pavillion. Senang shopping kat situ, semua di bawah satu bumbung. Oh ye, kalau tak ada kat TQ besar tu, ada branch dia yang kecil sikit. Jalan-jalan one day, dapat beli semua. Siap ada contoh hantaran kat sana. Buat survey sekejap, pick color theme and then we start buy things needed. Simple! Well, itupun ada la patah balik cari benda yang tak ada macam manik kilat-kilat and bunga kecil-kecil untuk accessories kat hantaran. But then as a whole I puas hati dengan hasilnya.

Basically, yang kat Nilai tu, Cuma bekas barang hantaran je. Barangnya belum cari. The next weekend, we go to KL – Sogo, Masjid Jamek, Jalan TAR. As I said, we did as simple as we can. Asalnya, buat 5-7 je. Jadi, bagi yang wajib je. Untuk perempuan (mine), sireh, kek, sejadah, telekung and baju persalinan (untuk nikah). For my other half, sireh, kek, baju persalinan, wallet and belt set, kain pelekat, cincin risik and tunang dengan kemeja and pants. Barang kering beli je mana yang jumpa. Tak ada nak survey sangat. Lagipun masa tu puasa faham-faham je lah kan. Bak kata my husband-to-be, jumpa, pakai jadi je lah. So, we did that.

Balik rumah, petang tu jugak jalan-jalan survey baju untuk hari kejadian. Mula tu kononnya, ingat nak beli. Tapi bila fikir balik, kos semuanya, baiklah tempah je. Sebab I ni banyak songeh. Si dia pun tak berapa rajin nak layan I pusing-pusing cari semua yang diperlukan. I cannot go by myself sebab taste tak sama nanti kalau dia tak suka, takkan nak masam muka masa bertunang, kan? I mean, if we decide to buy baju tunang tu, mesti nak accessories yang sesuai jugak. Then bayangkan nak settle semua tu, tak payah la. Jadi, kami pun pusing Kanchong Darat sampai pekan Banting cari butik pengantin. Tengok fesyen diorang ok ke tak then make-up plak. Tapi, prioritynya mestilah price. Eheh. The next day lepas habis consider semuanya, we decided to hire kak Nana from Nanako Bridal. Harga ok, servis pun awesome. My fiance pun puas hati dengan make-up dia.

Cincin memang antara yang paling awal cari sebab tu yang penting sekali kan, takut lupa last minute nanti. Lagipun, we have to consider yang harga emas cepat naik. Mahalnya emas sekarang aduhai. Beli 2 urat je nak dekat ribu. Tapi, kira ok lah tu kan, emas bukanya basi... Satu we all beli kat Habib Jewels. Satu lagi beli rembat Tomei punya. Dua-dua tu kat Alamanda, Putrajaya. 

Pasal gambar pulak, memang dah decide awal-awal takkan hire photographer. We both find it difficult to believe in their charges. Alahai, gambar je kot, apa yang mahal sangat tah. So, I asked my ex-roommate coz she used to do photography session untuk wedding. She said, belanja kita tambang pergi balik + makan tempat tinggal pun jadi lah, tak payah bayar. Alhamdulillah, settle!

Last but not least, tinggal rumah la, sebab rumah perempuan yang terima tetamu kan. My mom prepare the menu, cari bahan nak masak semua and call my makcik-makcik untuk majlis tu. Sponsored by my dad of course. Camana la nak bayar bayar balik agaknya ye? Thanks ibu, ayah. Sayang semua! Mwah.

Building Relationship

It takes two to tango

That’s how you maintain good relationship

our feelings falter when we are weary

I don’t have energy for anyone when I’m weary

I become dependent on anyone who shows me the slightest concern

That is how a girl feels

That's how when someone we love leave her

So, don't worry when a girl cares about you so much so it irritates you. Starts to worry when she doesn't care any more.

Have faith in love. Try to understand your partner. Read about them physically and psychologically. InsyaAllah you will get along well together.

Penghapus Dosa 2 Tahun

SUMBER


Puasa hari Arafah juga dikenali dengan puasa hari Wukuf ialah puasa sunat pada hari kesembilan Zulhijjah yang disunatkan bagi mereka yang tidak melakukan ibadah haji. 

Kelebihan berpuasa pada hari ini ialah ia dapat menghapuskan dosa-dosa setahun yang telah lalu dan dosa setahun yang akan datang, sebagaimana hadith yang telah diriwayatkan daripada Abu Qatadah al-Anshari ra:

Dan Rasulullah SAW ditanya tentang berpuasa di hari Arafah. Maka Baginda bersabda:“Ia menebus dosa setahun yang telah lalu dan setahun yang akan datang.” (Hadith Riwayat Imam Muslim)

Hari Arafah
i. Bagi penduduk Makkah, Hari Wukuf di Arafah adalah sehari sebelum Hari Nahar (Idul Adha) mengikut ketentuan kerajaan Arab Saudi.
ii. Bagi negara atau kawasan yang berlainan terbit matahari, penentuan 9 Zulhijjah adalah mengikut ketentuan imkanur-rukyah negara masing-masing.
iii. Hari Arafah (9 Zulhijjah) mempunyai keistimewaan tertentu yang sewajarnya diambil kesempatan oleh kaum muslimin.
iv. Masa berpuasa Arafah adalah 9 Zulhijjah mengikut ketentuan rukyah awal bulan Zulhijjah negara masing-masing.

9 Zulhijah tahun 2011 bersamaan dengan Sabtu, 5/11/2011, jom puasa ramai-ramai...!

Make-up Bertunang

I love the finishing touch. She is so professional and damn good. 

She did not in any way do something I would not like. She did it very well. You can see more of her works HERE

Most of the time, when mak andam applies the make-up on pengantin, they tend to do whatever they like (or want in that matter) like plucking and refining eyebrows. They can't do that and they have no right too. My married older sister said her mak andam did that. I also saw another mak andam does that to my dearest friends and cousins. I don't know why but I think they thought it makes the make-up perfect. I just can't...  Allah forbids, we follow. 

I thanked her so much for the service. I and my fiancee indeed satisfied. Murah & puas hati. Berbaloi tempah dengan kak Nana. Her husband did photography too but we didn't take him - budget kot... Takpelah,baru bertunang kan. InsyaAllah wedding nanti we engage him as well - definitely will also depends on the budget... huuu

Anyhow, we got RM150 make-up + RM150 persalinan pluss accessories. Tempat lain yang kami survey semua charge another RM50 for accessories. We are really grateful for that. They are absolutely on the list for our not-so-soon wedding! (^_^) Thanks kak Nana. You are awesome!

Oh well, thanks to her husband, we get this photo for free! excited & happy - exclusively edited by him. cantik okeh. pro.

sengaja "antik"kan gambar ni, malu I hehe. Anyway, siapa cari servis pelamin, make-up pengantin and photography package (lengkap all in one), duduk area banting, dengkil, klang and shah alam, I suggest you all take them, gerenti puas hati. Kalau jauh-jauh pun boleh kot, but I guess you have to pay some extra charge service (pengangkutan la kot).

UPDATE : so sorry to Najwa sebab reply mesej lambat sangat...
pergi kat link ni ye Nanako Bridal & Photography, ada contact number dorang. 

Reading

It has been years I was away from myself. When I am supposed to be aware instead of away from me. After I read Jodi Picoult then i realized that I were once a sucker for books. Any types and anything relating to sports, machines, love, fiction and what not, should be fine. I am now in my 20s, not really interested in reading books, holding a law degree,  and yet not sure what am I going to do with it - given the fact that I am dying concluding my 2nd degree. I am keen to learn but I currently not into books. I love reading but not enjoying them when it comes to exam. Oh al-Khaliq, please give me back those interest which were once blossoms in me. I'd like to have them back. To the end of my life.

Budget Tunang - Mana Nak Cekau Duit Banyak Gila tu

Actually, kalau you all rasa kerja kenduri ni tak guna banyak duit, hmmm silap besar la ye dik non... Nama pun kenduri so of course no doubt (nak menekankan betapanya lah) banyaknya guna duit bila nak buat majlis. 

Ye... Meh I nak citer ni.

 PROBLEM

Sebelum kenduri, I did asked my cousins and friends yang dah selesai dengan majlis-majlis mereka, berapa agak-agak budget tunang mereka ye? Ok. Ada yang kata RM1000 cukup dah. Ada pulak yang kata semua sekali (meaning share lelaki perempuan la kan), RM5000. I was like... adoi. alamak. appa amma. pening lalat kejap. Tapi, ikut logik la kan, memang logik pun. Bayangkan la, beli barang hantaran je dah setengah ribu. Itu bukan yang standard-standard mak datin tau, yang paling kokak la tu. Belum bekas hantarannya lagi, cincin untuk bakal tunang, goodies untuk tetamu, baju tunang, accessories semua tu, dah masuk senarai? hmmm MAHAL ok. Duit semua tu... NOKTAH.

Jadi, persoalan pokoknya di sini ialah;

Dari mana kita nak dapatkan duit yang banyak itu.

SUGGESTION 

Kalau keluarga bakal suami anda terdiri daripada golongan hartawan dan jutawan, sila abaikan entry ini okeh. Sebagai orang-orang biasa dan keturunan yang menggalakkan anak-anaknya berdikari ni, I supposed I should save up money since my very first year of study. Tapi dah terlajak sampai ke final year second degree dah pun, nak save up apa lagi. Now we have to think for the alternative. I did do part time business, crocheting. Tapi, tu pun tak la masyuk sangat; atas banyak sebab. Antaranya, I buat business ni online so nak dapat pelanggan tu bukan senang ye. Lain la kalau networking bagus. And then, handmade ni kan kena pandai cari masa sebab I student tak boleh la nak mengadap benda-benda tu 24/7. Another reason would be (ni yang my mom complain a lot) I can't give them proper price. Selalunya bila dah hantar je mesti my mom komplen, murahnya...! Haha. Tahla, ramai je kata my handwork cantik, neat, but then I feel like that they are easy to make and well... its not very time-consuming so I think it is not fair to the customer if I put a high price. 

IKLAN SIKIT

If you are interested to see them, you are welcome to visit my crochet blog - CROCHET KAK NGAH. Do comment if you like them C:

Tapi, masa kami bertunang hari tu, I think we are a lot menjurus kepada pendapat yang kedua tu (share lelaki perempuan RM5000) dan mungkin lebih lagi kot haha. As for me, masa cuti semester panjang April - September lepas, I work with my father and earn RM1200 per month. Since we’re doing canteen tender, so makan-makan is no problem – no money affected. Pergi balik kerja my father support minyak kereta. Lucky me...! I save up all my gaji for the engagement day and preparation. Dah berhenti kerja (sebab dah masuk semester baru) pun I still earn some money, apart from duit poket yang student wajib dapat tu lah. Sebabnya I suka hantar my brother pergi and balik kerja. My father bayar tau titik peluh anak dia yang sikit tu. In fact, literally, rasanya tak ada peluh langsung kot. Nama pun naik kereta, ada air-cond. Turun dari kereta pun tak, celah mana peluhnya la kan. 

Akhir kata,

Good Luck bakal-bakal pengantin... Mari kita sama-sama perah otak cari duit...!

INSAN BERNAMA KEKASIH

Debar hatiku membisik rindu

Ingin aku katakana kau gadis idaman

Adakah mungkin kau ku milki

Untukku jadikan insan bernama kekasih

Keayuan yang tergambar lukisan nur iman

Bersulamkan keindahan santun perkataan

Bagai putih salju medinginkan hangat perasaan

Mengusir segala rasa dijiwa

(Chorus)

Ku sampaikan salam ucapan mesra

Dan merisik khabar berita

Masihkah ada peluang untuk ku melafazkan cinta

Umpama rembulan jatuh ke riba

Mendengar khabaran darinya

Padaku kau memendam rasa

Padamu Tuhan ku memohon keredhaan

Kekasih yang ku damba

Kekal hingga ke syurga

Hanya satu yang ku pinta

Kebaikan dariNYA

Moga dipeliharakan tulus cinta kita

Agar kukuh ikatan yang murni bahagia selamanya

Dengan lafaz pernikahan yang mulia

Datanglah kasihmu dalam diriku

Menghiasi ruang hatiku

Akan ku sambutnya dengan sujud penuh kesyukuran

Ku harap jalinan kan berpanjangan

Selagi kasih yang terbina kerana cinta kepadaNYA

(Chorus)

Kau ku sayangi teman sejati

Dikaulah sesungguhnya insan bernama kekasih

addicted *tetibe je*