Diet

I have said this HERE but I may not have said it right ^___^

I was on a long semester break May-September 2011 so I decided to help my dad making some money at some canteen of factory calls Chemi-con Malaysia. Anyway, being busy and kind of short-workers, I really had no time to eat or even think about food. Nonetheless, I was continuously without fail keep reminding myself that I couldn't tolerate gastric and ulcer so I force myself to find time to eat. Luckily I love my aunt's home made kuihs and cakes so I ate a lot of her curry-puff and cucur badak and what not. Oh yes my father bought them half-cooked; frozen dish in another word and so I just need to fry them a little and wallaa... bon appetit

After that 5 months of working so hard believe-it-or-not heee I lost more or less 5 kilos. Not bad huh. In a nutshell, if you really wanna loose fat, avoid rice and... 

Good luck!

Trust Your Father Instinct

All these years my father is the only one driving at home. That’s simply because he don’t believe woman with car. Some of the examples are,

“Cepat la sikit kak long… kosong depan tu,”

“Ish3 apsal potong camtu. Tu mesti perempuan,”

“Kan kuning tu, jalan je la…” “Oh, perempuan… patut la…”

SARCASTIC, GENDER BIAS, SEXIST. and I personally think he is too rigid in thinking all women cannot drive properly. Well, I am against his attitude but what to do. I have no license and I don’t know how to drive so I am not sure whether I can drive well.

Time goes by and he’s getting busy with his work. He has no much time to send and fetch up my brothers at school. Sometime he has to fetch up me too – from bus stop when I got home for holidays. He also has to go and buy things at market. He is the one who drive to kampung for hari raya and kenduri. It’s tiring. And so he let us take the driving license, which is good for us and not so good for him – I guess – sebab my father reluctantly let us drive the car to shop if he’s home.

Now, he’s getting busier and a lot busier with the canteen stuff. (He got canteen tender a couple month ago). The canteen operated 24 hours and apparently he has no time to send, wait and fetch my brothers. Hence my mom has to take over.

I am on a long vacation. Yesterday, I follow my mom fetching up my brothers because afterwards we want to exercise at the recreational area. After that short ride, only I realize exactly why my father doesn’t believe women with cars. They are like jumping here and there, cannot wait uncomplainingly, driving so fast and running on anything possibly they can run on on the road and 20 000 000 other inappropriate way of driving that you may think of.

You know what, before, when my mom sit next to me, she always say, “Slow la sikit”, “Bawak slow slow je, jangan laju-laju,”, “Dah, ketepi, kereta belakang tu laju,” and when she is not going along, she always say “Bawak kereta elok-elok” but yesterday? I don’t know if she remembers anything she has ever said to me.

She drives too fast. She runs on everything from a hole, bumpy, uneven road and to anything else you possibly could see on the road. When she is about to go out of junction, she can actually just go out when I think there is car coming towards us. I don’t know how many times I feel like I hit the brake pedal even I know it’s not there. When she is about to cross the road, I recite syahadah – just in case! Aduh mana la tahu kan. SCARY. It really is.

Last time, I went for a little vacation at PD and since we are all girls, unquestionably the driver is a girl. We all went out for dinner that night, looking for ikan bakar. She cross the road just like that and there is a white car coming to us. Luckily, it was slow and he turns away from us. Obviously we got a loud and long honk. Padan muka. Padahal, it was WHITE car and we are supposed to notice him. Nasib la kelin* tu tak berhenti maki kitorang.

I love riding car but not with a girl. Neither a woman. They are dangerous driver ;p

I myself a girl, a big girl now. I have had accident, once. Luckily, I run on to divider and no other person involved. However I feel sorry for my father. He cannot claim the insurance. It was third party insurance. Ye la, tu kereta lama, da tukar sana sini. Dapat pulak enjin turbo. Tu yang I bawa kereta laju tu tak sedar. Hadoi, kopak ayah.

Anyway, if you are a girl, be extra careful. I guess it is man’s gift that Allah made them a good driver. They are leader and we will always be the follower. And about the comments,

“Cepat la sikit kak long… kosong depan tu,” = girls, when your meter reaches 100, stay at left. 100 is still SLOW.

“Ish3 apsal potong camtu. Tu mesti perempuan,” = when you are about to take over another car, lorry or bus, make sure you can take over. Give signal first and don’t panic. If you are not sure, ikut je la botot kereta tu, you’ll be safe.

“Kan kuning tu, jalan je la…” “Oh, perempuan… patut la…” = when it is yellow, you go faster because after your light turns red, you got 3 seconds before the other light turns green. It is fact. You should know that J

Last but not least, be a good driver.

Hantaran

Since I've said I am engaged so these are some of the photos :) hantaran dari pihak lelaki 21 dulang, kepada pihak lelaki 20 dulang. In my family it's kind of normal aunties and cousins give things such as chocolates and sweets adding the dulangs. That explains why ours are even in numbers hehe

dari pihak lelaki

kepada pihak lelaki

These are some more...

Thanks everyone. I love you all. Special thanks to my cousins Kak Ina, Kak Ijah & Kak Ct. They successfully add 6 dulangs to my hantaran so that we give no less than my fiance's family gave heee...

siapa-siapa rasa dulang-dulang di atas cantik (in fact they are) don't hesitate to give me a call - in case you want to order some :) 013-2504851

Nikah Rahsia

Pernikahan yang dirahsiakan dan tidak diwar-warkan kepada orang ramai.

Perbezaan antara nikah rahsia (NR) dengan nikah yang tidak didaftarkan (NTD).

1) NTD memenuhi syarat-syarat nikah tetapi tidak didaftarkan. Ia sah dari segi syarak dan tidak memberi kesan kepada kesahihan nikah tersebut memandangkan "pendaftaran" bukan salah satu syarat sah nikah. 

2)  Sebaliknya, NR menyalahi NTD iaitu suami isteri bersepakat dengan wali dan saksi supaya tidak menghebahkan nikah tersebut, sama ada didaftarkan atau tidak.

Pendapat ulama' dan dalil-dalil mereka.

1) Syafi'iyah, Hanafiah & Hanabilah bersetuju bahawa NR dibolehkan.

dalil

i) hadith Nabi (s.a.w) la nikah illa bi wali; mafhum hadith: nikah sah dengan izin wali. Nabi tak kata; tidak sah nikah yang dirahsiakan.

ii) Qiyas kepada jual beli; kedua-duanya ialah 'aqd mu'awadhah min jalibain (melibatkan kedua belah pihak), dan tidak disyaratkan mengiklankan akad jual beli. Oleh itu, sama sepertinya, tidak disyaratkan mengiklankan akad nikah.

iii) Syarat nikah diiklankan, tapi dah ada iklan sebab ada 2 orang saksi, dan itu cara yang selaras dengan syarak. Dengan adanya saksi-saksi tersebut, nikah itu bukanlah nikah rahsia.

2) Malikiah & sebahagian Hanabilah berpendapat bahawa NR tidak sah (batil).

dalil

i) Telah diriwayatkan bahawa sampai khabar kepada Umar dalam satu majlis akad nikah, cuma seorang lelaki & seorang perempuan menjadi saksi (tak memenuhi syarat saksi 2 orang lelaki @ seorang lelaki + 2 orang perempuan). Umar tak membenarkan nikah tersebut.

Walaubagaimanapun, penulis tidak bersetuju dengan dalil ini. Pada pandangan beliau, ini bukan NR tetapi nikah batil kerana tidak memenuhi syarat nikah. Jadi, dalil ini tidak dipertimbangkan sama sekali.

ii) Qiyas kepada "couple" kerana tiada beza antara couple dengan pasangan suami isteri yang tidak diketahui sah akad nikahnya. Pada pandangan umum, mereka belum berkahwin dan tiada ikatan sah sebagai suami dan isteri. Dalam Islam, perbezaan antara halal dan haram adalah jelas. Jadi, NR boleh menimbulkan syakwasangka dengan tiada beza yang nyata antara halal dan haram.

Kesimpulannya, NR menyalahi maksud sebenar syarak iaitu memelihara keturunan. Contohnya, jika wali dan saksi-saksi dalam NR mati, kemudian suami mendakwa dia tidak pernah mengahwini isterinya, ia akan menimbulkan masalah kecuali jika nikah ini didaftarkan ataupun isteri mempunyai bukti kukuh menunjukkan mereka telah berkahwin. Jika tidak, orang ramai pasti meragui hak isteri dan anak tersebut. 

So It Happens...

I am engaged! :) 

Unbreak My Heart (Regresa A Mi)

No me abandones así
hablando sólo de ti.
Ven y devuelveme al fin
la sonrisa que se fue.
Una vez más tocar tu piel
el hondo suspirar.
Recuperemos lo que se ha perdido.

Regresa a mí,
quéreme otra vez,
borra el dolor
que al irte me dio
cuando te separaste de mí.
Dime que sí
Ya no quiero llorar,
regresa a mí.

Extraño el amor que se fue,
extraña la dicha también.
Quiero que vengas a mí
y me vuelvas s querer.
No puedo más si tú no estás,
tienes que llegar.
Mi vida se apaga sin ti a mi lado.

[Chorus]

No me abandonas así,
hablando sólo de ti.
Devuelveme la pasión de tus brazos.

Pengantin Kurus

Dah nak kahwin ke belum ke perempuan suka kalau tetibe je orang sekeliling tegur "eh, nampak kurus sikit la. Diet eh?" as opposite to "nampak berisi la. Ada apa-apa ke ni?" betul tak?

Makin tua, badan kita makin penat. Jadi, kita sendiri kena la lebihkan rajin. Bersenam, kurangkan pengambilan makanan manis, jaga kandungan kalori yang masuk dalam badan tu, kan? Usia 20 tahun ke atas, badan dah cepat kembang, walaupun dulu masa kecil-kecil tak pernah gemuk. Ye lah... Makin banyak usia kita, makin kurang kadar metabolisma badan. Jadi, tak boleh la suka-suka je nak makan apa. Harus la prihatin sikit dengan mesin kita. Berapa banyak kalori dia boleh proses. 

Camana nak kurus. Itu persoalannya. Kadang-kadang kita kena tahu jugak trick-trick nak kurus ni. Kalau rajin bersenam tapi rajin makan, tak jadi jugak. Paling utama, kena jaga makan . Last 5 months, I was on a long semester vacation. I lost about 6 kg unintentionally. Hehehe... Sebenarnya camni, father I ada pegang tender kantin. Biasa lah awal-awal tu kan, cari pekerja susah. Pulak tu, tak kenal dengan previous tender holder. Memang perit jugak la tolong ayah kat kantin. Budak-budak kilang kerja 8jam. Kitorang kerja minimum 12 jam sebab kilang tu buka 24 jam. They all ada 3 shifts tapi kitorang 2 shift je. Tu yang kerja banya, makan sikit. Time kerja pulak, masa makan tak teratur. Awal-awal kerja, pekerja kantin kurang, kelam-kabut buat kerja, makan tak sempat. Memang boleh kurus. Bagus jugak kan tolong orang tua. Banyak faedahnya...

Banyak benda yang jadi kat kantin tu. Bila tukang masak takde, sume jadi bidan terjun. Masak je mana yang boleh. Dasyat jugak kalau nak ikutkan. Dah macam masak untuk kenduri. Dah tu... Nak buat camana. Nak taknak terpaksa masak jugak. Kalau tak, budak kilang plak bising tade apa nak makan. Bila camtu, hari-hari tengok makanan, jemu. Tak selera makan. Balik kerja dah penat, tidur. Bangun plak tak makan terus pergi kerja. Dalam masa kerja, makan nak cepat, ambil kuih je. Jarang-jarang makan nasi . So, dalam masa sebulan, turun 5 kg. The next month, turun another 1 kg, and until now I manage to maintain the weight sebab perut dah biasa makan sikit, and digest the very thing I ate. Thank God. 

I really wanna get rid of these kind of questions "bila nak kahwin?" bosan kot dengar soalan camtu. Then, I pun ajak la mr-husband-to-be kahwin. Hehe. Dia kata no problem, jom kahwin, ayang support. Gulp. Hahah. Banyak duit I nak support majlis kita? Anyhow, we are heading there :) kahwin insyaAllah setahun lagi. Dia suruh I kurus sikit, baru lah cantik dalam gambar.

Adakah semua pengantin wajib kurus? Entah la. Tapi gambar pengantin most probably once in a lifetime. Jadi, apa salahnya berkorban sikit kan. Diet tipu-tipu pun takpe lah. Asalkan nampak kurus dalam gambar. Nanti tade la penat photographer cari angel best2 nak kasi pengantin nampak cun. Tak pun jenuh dia edit biar nampak kurus. Kan leceh camtu.. Jadi, mari kita kuruskan badan. Hait..!

p/s: kena ukur saiz pinggang ni :p